Stop Settling... You're Worth Way More!

I hated biology in school. To be honest, any class that had to do with science I could REALLY do without. Even though I find science interesting, in school, I could never achieve higher than a "C". Since science had nothing to do with my major, I was ok with that. I wasn’t Bill Nye and I knew it. All I really wanted to do was to pass so those "C's" did just that. While that was fine when it came to school, the subject of love should never be taken as lightly. When it comes to love, just getting by is never the goal. Unfortunately, so often, people find themselves doing just that! Instead of getting into an “A” relationship, they often settle for “C” ones or worse! If you’re one of those people who settles like that, let these next 4 reasons serve as your warning and STOP before you find yourself stuck in a wack ass relationship that you don’t know how to get out of!


You’re Blocking Your Blessings

Old people say it all the time, “Don’t block your blessings” and when it comes to settling for a relationship that isn’t rewarding and fulfilling, you’re doing just that. If you’re occupied with a person that isn’t right for you, how can you be open and ready for the person that is right for you? For all you know, the one that you’re suppose to be with can’t see you because you have the person that ISN’T right for you, blocking their view. Like relationships, blessings come and go, don’t miss that blessing because you’re too wrapped up in someone that you shouldn’t be.


You’re Not Happy For Real

Even if the person that you’re settling for doesn’t cause you problems or they take care of you or they’re genuinely a nice person; you know when you really keep it a buck with yourself, you’re not truly happy. That’s because true happiness comes from within, not from another person and their actions. When you’re settling, you might find happy moments but you won’t be completely happy. Don’t be afraid to go after the kind of love that fills you up to the point where you can’t stop smiling. Settling for the wrong person keeps you from reaching that depth of happiness.


You’re Being the Bad Guy

I was always the bad guy in 90% of my relationships. It is something that I take full responsibility for. When I realized what I was doing to the hearts that I was encountering, being the bad guy started to really feel shitty. When you know that a person doesn’t fulfill you 100%, it is your duty to let them know then let them go! If you don’t you’re being the bad guy! A relationship works best when both parties are the emotional recipients of something that they couldn’t receive elsewhere. When you’re settling, not only are you not receiving the things you need but you’re also not fully nurturing the emotions that the person you’re settling with is giving you. When you think about a person giving you their all while you’re giving them less than that, don’t you feel wrong? The world doesn’t need another bad guy.


Wasting Everybody’s Time

To be honest, this really should be number 1! When you decide to settle for a person instead of going after someone that you can truly be content with, you’re wasting your time and the other person's. If the person you’re dealing with knew that you were settling, would they want to stay? If they had any respect for themselves, they wouldn't and anyone that doesn’t FIRST have respect for their self shouldn’t be afforded the opportunity to be with you! No matter how old you are, you’re not getting any younger, when you realize that the person you’re with isn’t really the one for you, move on. The sooner you do, the more time you will have to find and enjoy someone that is truly right for you. Settling is something that you shouldn’t do regardless of the situation but especially when it comes to your heart because you only have one and it deserves the best!






J Rod Tanner

Los Angeles. New York. Virginia